Personal Responsibility

The Meet Rack is not for everybody

While on the Rack, it is expected that you are able to firmly and clearly hold your own boundaries. If you struggle with boundaries, find difficulty giving a clear "No, Stop, etc." if somebody is doing something that you don't want, then perhaps the Rack is not for you.

There are hundreds of people coming to grope, and many of them do not know the rules of the community. Accidents happen. If you will be upset if someone accidentally touches a part of your body because they misinterpreted your clothing, or maybe just didn't read the rules thoroughly, etc. perhaps the Rack is not for you.

There are only a few stated rules, and they allow for a wide range of behaviors and approaches. We strive to be clear, but there is still space for interpretation within the rules. If you have a narrow tolerance for what people can do without you getting upset, then perhaps this isn't for you.

You absolutely do not have to tolerate any behaviors that fall outside the rules, but things can happen within the rules that still might be upsetting. If you need this to be a perfect experience or it's a failure, then perhaps the Rack is not for you.

And that's ok, the Meet Rack is not for everyone!

There is no failure in trying the Rack and then deciding it's too much, or people are following the rules, but it's still more leeway than you wanted, etc. You are completely welcome to go up and come down from the Rack whenever you wish.

The Meet Locker has risks!

The Meet Locker is where you and your Monitor are setting the rules. We aren't enforcing anything other than you actually have a monitor with you.

There is risk of miscommunication between your monitor and the gropers (Or even between you and your monitor). Remember, this is essentially a minimally negotiated scene. Be *sure* you are clear. If something goes awry, please feel free to call the monitors for help to de-escalate a situation if needed.

Remember this isn't something we are going to police or get involved in. Think of it as the same as if you'd met at a local play party.

Groping is has risks.

Don't be the person who breaks the rules, pushes it too far, didn't read, etc. By taking part you understand that you may make a mistake. You may misread someone's intent or not understand the rules.

If that happens, and you have created a problem, Own it. Apologize.

Understand that the monitors are there to help and protect everyone. Work with them to resolve whatever the situation is. A sincere apology for a real mistake goes a long way towards earning respect and not screwing up someone else's experience.

Assumed risk

Dark Odyssey is an event open to the public, which means the gropers at the Meet Rack have a wide variety of experience and knowledge. We have many layers of protection in place, but you cannot assume that the person groping you is versed in community standards and norms. The first bad touch might happen before a monitor is able to intervene. You MUST be able to advocate for yourself in these situations.