Going on The Meet Locker

While the Meet Rack is great for lighthearted "get to know you scenes" there has always been an undercurrent of "But I want more…", or "My scene is different" that some people have expressed.

We are introducing the Meet Locker as a debut event at Surrender. Gropers are free to move between the sections.

What is the Locker?

Put simply: IF YOU BRING YOUR OWN MONITOR WITH YOU, then you are free to have any sort of interactions with the gropers that you wish to offer.

We will create a distinct space for the Locker so there is no confusion between the Locker and the Rack. If you are in the Locker, you must have your monitor with you at all times.

Personal Responsibility

Remember, You are responsible for your safety. You are responsible for choosing your monitor and negotiating what you're offering. You are responsible for holding your boundaries. If you have proxied that to your monitor, then that's still your responsibility.

With The Meet Locker we are expecting some more extreme scenes, especially involving CNC and/or sexual use. Remember that at the end of the day You are responsible for your own safety. Even if you have a Monitor watching over you, they can make mistakes, misjudge a situation, etc. And the end of the day you can yell *Safeword*. Don't forget it!

What are the Rules?

There are only three rules that we are enforcing:

1. You cannot be "In the Locker" without a Monitor who must remain with you the entire time. Your monitor is with you, not near you, not shouting distance, not playing with the person next to you, etc. They are responsible for your safety.
2. All Gropers must listen and obey the monitors.
3. "SAFEWORD" is the house safeword and we will all come as quickly as possible to stop all play and assess the situation.

I want to go in the Locker and offer [insert kink here] but I don't have a Monitor.

It is your job to recruit a Monitor to accompany you. We are not providing monitors, or trying to match people. You should, of course, pick someone who you trust with your safety. But that judgement is up to you.

What must the Monitor do?

• If you are a Monitor for someone in the Locker, you are responsible for ensuring the safety, and consent for the person you are monitoring. It is your job to interact with the Gropers. If you and your charge agree that they can interact with the Gropers themselves, that is between you, but as far as we are concerned you are responsible.
• It is your job to make sure that what the gropers are allowed to do is perfectly clear. That can be a negotiation, or a sign, or a discussion, or you can hand them a flogger. If someone misunderstands and does something that wasn't supposed to be allowed, that's on you.
• If the Gropers are supposed to interact with the Meet and negotiate with them, that's fine, but you're responsible for making sure that's what happens.
• If a Groper isn't listening to you, or causing a problem, escalate it to the hosts, the DM's, or one of our event monitors. They should be listening to you.
• The house Safeword is Safeword feel free to use it if you have a problematic groper.

What scenes belong in the Locker vs. the Rack?

If you read the rules of the Rack, they are fairly restrictive. Anything that doesn't fit completely into those rules is fair game in the Locker.

If, after reading and re-reading the Rack rules, you are still unsure if what you want to do is allowed on the Rack, it isn't. Do it in the Locker with a personal monitor.

What are some scenes I can do in the Locker?

All of the following scenes are not ok for the Meet Rack, but are great for the Locker:

• I want to offer myself to be flogged
• I want to be seriously spanked
• I want to offer myself for fucking
• I want to offer CNC Blowjobs
• I want to allow people to fist me
• I want some CBT, please abuse my cock and balls
• I want to offer myself as a rubberband dartboard
• Etc… Anything that *isn't* the simple, lighthearted groping allowed on the Rack.

Likely questions:

Q: I'm going to be the Monitor for my partner John while people can flog him. It's pretty safe, can I ALSO monitor my other friend Mary at the same time?

A: No. One monitor for one piece of Meet.

Q: But the scenes are *really* safe.

A: We understand, but this is the first time we are trying this at Surrenderand we want to err on the side of safety. It's a slippery slope which we don't want to start down.

Q: We're going to have the Groper negotiate with the Meet directly, and they have agreed to follow safewords, etc. Can I leave them to it?

A: No. If you leave the person you are monitoring then hopefully our volunteer monitors will see that and stop the scene. Remember, they can always negotiate that scene outside of the structure of the Meet Locker.

Q: If I, as a Monitor, feel like a scene has gone far enough and I tell the Groper to stop, but the bottom says "No, keep going", what should happen?

A: The Groper should stop immediately. And if they don't, escalate it. You have both the responsibility and the power. If you and your charge want to allow them to override you, that's up to you, but the Gropers must listen to you.